Radha talks about it in this video (video in English with simultaneous translation in Italian).
Internet addiction and in particular cybersex is becoming increasingly common.
Today, a world without internet is inconceivable, but this technology can become a real cause of illness, with serious consequences on people’s lives.
The expression “Internet Addiction Disorder” was coined for the first time by the American psychiatrist Ivan Goldberg, who in 1995 defined the characteristics of this dysfunction and its symptoms comparing it to other addictions to substances, gambling, etc.
Today the statistics show that the most affected subjects are teenagers between 13 and 20 and their young age makes them obviously even more vulnerable.
In Japan since several years the phenomenon of “hikikomori” is known, teenagers who gradually withdraw from real life to shut themselves up at home, literally remaining “self-detained” in their rooms, surfing the internet all day and night.
It seems that this extreme form of addiction is based on low self-esteem, a lack of confidence in one’s physical appearance and a serious rejection of one’s body. Often these children are unable to have personal interactions of any kind, if not mediated by social media or online role-playing games.
This phenomenon is the extreme representation of a way of living the social and interpersonal relationships that is moving away from reality.
Faced with the uncertainty of personal contacts in which we must necessarily expose ourselves to become intimate, the insecurity and lack of trust can lead young people especially to look for “safer” answers on the internet.
The problem is that kids are learning a way to experience sexuality online that offers models that are never realisable.
Who can ever feel up to the performance of internet porn stars?
And who will ever have the courage to challenge their fears and insecurities with such goals to be achieved?
It is easy to understand how children can develop a vicious circle of fear of intimacy-refuge in the internet-creation of unreachable models-frustration in real life-fear of contacts.
Moreover, the continuous exposure to “virtual” stimuli of any kind can lead some to experience the interactions of real life with boredom and frustration, and to shelter in a fictitious world in which sexuality is only apparently freed from taboos, repressions, etc … and in reality it is conditioned to the constant search for perversions and ever greater stimuli.
Out of fear of feeling too much, out of fear of not feeling enough, out of fear of not being up to or in order not to get involved … better to avoid the dangerous real contact with the other.
This is how sexuality becomes a monologue, lived in front of a screen or even in the physical presence of another person. Certainly not a sexuality lived to its maximum physical and spiritual potential.
Far from being a “therapy”, Tantra can however become a useful method for practicing a form of sensory re-education, from a repetitive, boring and mechanical sexuality, to the ability to feel in the moment, from a monologue-sexuality to a dialogue-sexuality.
The starting point is learning to listen to yourself.