In tantra, every relationship is experienced as an opportunity for growth, whether it is a love relationship or friendship, in the family, at work, etc…
In particular, relationships become a very powerful mirror of our patterns, often making us confront the fear of abandonment or the sense of suffocation.
Abandonment and suffocation are two unpleasant sensations that arise from a fundamental misunderstanding: judging others responsible for our well-being or blaming them for our discomfort.
This is how we fall into the deception of the mind – or ego – that divides.
This sense of separation also manifests itself on a physical level.
For example in sexuality: how much are we able to let go to merging with the other?
Often, in fact, the difficulties related to the lack of desire or to achieve an erection or orgasm are nothing more than consequences of a strong mind that creates a resistance to “surrendering” to the other, even when the fusion is our greatest longing.
Bringing awareness into relationships, and even more so into sexuality, can make us see very clearly the mechanisms of the ego that creates dualism.
Can we, therefore, learn a great lesson in every “difficult” relationship if, for example, we consciously decide to get out of the dichotomy “me versus the other” and on the contrary, we can ask ourselves: where is the separation inside of us?
What are the parts within us that don’t communicate?
In this way, it is also possible to realize that what separates us from others is what is separate inside of us.
When we do not trust the other, we can ask ourselves if there is a lack of trust in a part of us.
And finally, it is up to us to decide whether to believe in the separation of the mind, of the ego, or enter into trust, into the heart.